A Kinder Resolution


new-years-resolutions‘Tis the season to set New Years Resolutions that will attempt to create an entirely new you.  However, why we make all these promises to ourselves when it’s the dead of winter with no vacation in sight, and when most of us will spend the first day of the year sobering up with a Big Mac and french fries, is something that I’ve given up trying to understand. Obviously, goals are good, but the first of the year holds a lot of pressure. We are attempting to get back into the groove of normal life. I mean for most of us we are just trying to pay off that enormous Christmas credit card bill and drag ourselves out of bed in the freezing cold to get to work.  Or trying to forget about old aunt Milly’s comment about our martial status for the third year in a row. Honestly, the last thing we need are a bunch of crazy expectations about being a “new you.” Yes, we are going to pitch our 2015 calendars and put up the 2016, but this doesn’t mean this is your only chance in 2016 to make a new start. If you feel up for it, great. But realistically January 1st is just another day. I decided to get my fitness in order on November 14th.  Why?  Because that’s when I was ready to.

Don’t get me wrong there are things I hope to accomplish in 2016 such as learning to parallel park in Chicago (Don’t laugh. I grew up in bumblefuck Iowa, and I’ve only had to do it once in my life.  And yes it was in Driver’s Ed.) I also hope to create my own website and get hitched without too much drama. But on January 1st, 2016, I plan to sit on my duff, read a book, drink hot chocolate with peppermint schnapps, and enjoy a rare winter’s day off. I won’t be running at the crack of dawn. I won’t be cleaning my closets or attempting to be a better me. I’m going to be cool with where I’m at and employing full Scarlett O’Hara tactics… “After all tomorrow is another day.”

If a New Years resolution must be started on the first day of the year because you can’t imagine not having something, make it to be kinder to yourself. I think that’s a resolution definitely  worth trying.


The Re-Cap of 2015



Well here we are again. It’s almost weird that another calendar is about to bite the dust. But before we officially say good-bye and preoccupy ourselves with making over zealous New Years Resolutions (which I have plenty to say about, but I shall save it for another time.) I would like to take quick review of the previous dozen months.

  1. Scott and I had our first experience taking care of each other while the other was sick.
  2. We went to Rome!
  3. We got engaged in Rome!
  4. I took up tap dancing.
  5. I went to my first opera.
  6. I read 44 books.
  7. I used up an entire journal for the first time in my life.
  8. I lost my saddlebags. I thought it would never happen.  The scale didn’t go down, but it seems my butt went up.  I’m okay with this trade off.
  9. I finished one afghan and got part way through another.
  10. I found my wedding dress.
  11. I was the Dungeon Master for the very first time in a D&D session.
  12. I went snowboarding for the first time. I was terrible it and loved it.
  13. I discovered a new way to do crayon art.
  14. Scott and I got approved for a mortgage. That junk is scary.
  15. I had probably one of the best birthdays ever.
  16. I got a pay raise (these are always nice.)
  17. I got custom tap shoes.  They are amazing!
  18. My mother made me so many amazing dresses and shirts this year. My entire office is jealous!
  19. I’ve made it through multiple Insanity workouts.
  20. I have thus far kept my orchid alive that’s on my desk.
  21. And I got to spend all my days with the greatest guy ever!

It was a great year. There were so many laughs. So much silliness, and I can’t wait to see what 2016 is all about!

A Good Laugh



This morning for some reason I decided to peruse some of my old Facebook posts. They hold a lot of happy memories. I came across the above photo my friend Kelsey took during one of our tap lessons. (My feet are at the top.)  Her cat Link likes to “dance” with us. Anyway when I looked at it, the first thing that popped into my head was “I don’t own white leggings.”  And then it hit me, those are my legs in the middle of summer, and I wear dresses that expose my legs pretty much everyday. I burst out laughing.

Expensive Workout Clothes: Not a Bad Idea?



I always thought that spending a lot of money on workout clothes was rather silly. It’s something that I’m going to sweat in, or wear hanging out in my living room. And when I go to the gym, I’m there to workout, not look cute, so paying over 30 bucks for workout pants is stupid, right?

Perhaps not.

I started going to this strength training class.  It’s in a fairly upscale neighborhood and a lot of the ladies in the classes I take wear lululemon.  The pinnacle of workout clothes.  Their workout pants normally retail for around $98 (nope, that’s not a typo. And if you’re reading this in public, close your mouth.) And they look great, and I’ve always wanted to get some workout pants from there, but I couldn’t ever bring myself to spend the money because it seemed ridiculous for workout pants.  But then I got to thinking…

When I’m not at work or going to some sort of personal engagement, I wear workout pants. I’m in them all the time. The ones I have I wash at least once a week. And let’s face it, when I workout whether at the gym or at home it’s nice to look pretty and feel sexy.  It kind of gives me a push to keep it up, and look even better in my skin tight workout pants. (Scott’s a fan too.) It helps make it more fun. I know some people feel that it’s showing off, but losing weight and getting into shape take a lot of work and dedication so why shouldn’t people be allowed to show what they’ve worked for?

This doesn’t mean I’m getting rid of everything I currently have because I do have some cute stuff that’s not lulu, but at the same time I’m not going to think it’s quite as crazy spending some dough on their stuff. If they last, cost per wear will probably be pretty low. I don’t seem to have a probably spending $100 on a pair of awesome heels that I will probably wear 20 times at most in their lifetime.  This makes the workout out pants look like a steal.  And if they make someone feel a bit more confident walking into a gym to workout then it’s probably money well spent.

Just a little perspective to consider.

The Big Sweat



Okay, so I know I’ve been a little MIA recently and for that I apologize. My last post discussed how I was not drinking more than five drinks per week. And two months later, I’ve stuck to my goal, and I actually feel significantly better. In fact between the decrease in drinking and workouts a couple times a week things, I feel like I’ve made progress and need to step it up. I especially needed to work on getting into doing more cardio. Because I don’t have a gym close by and we are approaching a season that’s not conducive to running outside, I decided I would get something for my xBox.  After looking through some options I decided to invest in Insanity.

However, last week I was on vacation in Florida, and since I was on vacation Scott and I decided to suspend all diets and workouts and just enjoy ourselves.  We had a blast, but upon the return home I felt like I have anything but a beach body. Today was the first day back from said vacation so today was the day to start.

The first workout in the series I purchased is 35 minutes long and is called Insane Cardio.  At about 8:30 this morning I decided to give it a go and…

Holy Shit!!

At a little over 16 minutes I had to throw in the towel for today. I was sweating like I was doing a marathon in bikram yoga room. My face was the color of a cooked lobster, and my breathing sounding like a wheezing fan with a broke blade on high. Okay, so it sounds horrible…And well to be honest…it was.

However, I felt that it is a good start, and I know that if I keep this up I will no doubt get into shape.

To keep it going, tomorrow will be about 60 minutes of tap dancing with my friend Kelsey.  Wednesday is a strength training class called Dailey Method, and Friday I will be back to Insanity. I will be truthful, it will be a miracle if I make it through the week.  Oofta.

The Challenge



In 2013, I was probably in the best physical shape I had ever been in.  I was working out and eating healthy.  I could fit into sizes I hadn’t seen since the 7th grade, and I felt fantastic. Towards the end of the year life got even better, I met a boy.  And as most know, love is the greatest plumper of all.  In about three months, I gain 12 pounds.  I wasn’t going to workout when I could hang out with him, and eating out was so romantic and so much fun. A little over two years later we are getting married, and I couldn’t be happier with my life; however, my pants are still unhappy with me. So for the past few months, I have been trying to get back to working out and eating better, which on the whole I’m not doing too bad.

However, despite the working out two to three times a week and having no sweets, chips, or fried food on a regular basis.  I still can’t seem to make any progress in making my waistband less snarky with me. On Tuesday, I came home, and had one of those ridiculously girly meltdowns.  You know the ones.  They consist of saying your fat, poking and prodding and pinching all your jiggly parts as you stand in front of the mirror in your underwear.  And finishing with an epic pout and self pity tears. After Scott got me through all the illogical-ness.  He suggested that perhaps we should cut back on our alcohol consumption to see if that helps. At first I said, “I guess.”  I was think to myself that my alcohol consumption was about the same as it had been back in 2013 when my weight was its best.  But then I got to thinking and then I got to counting…

To quote one of my favorite podcaster, hotchy, motchy!! I was drinking A LOT!  I mean I won’t give a number because a) I don’t want to see it in black and white b) I get enough judgement and flack as it is and finally c) my mother reads this blog.  Now the questions, you may be thinking is how did you not know? Here the thing.  Only rarely did I actually get drunk.  I would have multiple drinks over a wide span of time, also this over time boosted my tolerance, so I could naturally consume more before I slammed on the brakes. I was also drinking so much because I am a fairly social person, and  I would go out with peeps and we would all get drinks and have a good time. I didn’t really think anything of it.

Due to this revelation, Scott and I have made a pact that we will be drinking no more than 5 drinks in a week (7 days.) If you think this is a lot, I can assure you that this is a sharp decrease from the numbers previously crunched. This means that both Scott and I have to pick and choose the events that we drink at and how much.  For instance, this Sunday we have our monthly brunch club, and I will not be drinking.  Morning cocktails aren’t may favorite anyway, so that will be pretty easy for me. Scott stays home more during the week, but will have to make sure not to stop on the way home to liquefy the day’s stress.

I have a feeling that we will not only start to see a weight change but also a wallet change as well which is a nice added perk. So raise your water glass to new beginnings and healthier choices.

Why This Week is a Great Week!!



Once again we find ourselves at the beginning of a new week, and sometimes Mondays aren’t the greatest!! However, there are always things to look forward to and enjoy in the moments.  So this week is a great week because…

1) There are wonderful books to read.  I’m currently making my way through the classic of The Picture of Dorian Gray. 

2) There are free evenings to bum around the house.  This means there will be reading, video game playing, and marathon MASH watching.

3) There is orange lemon tea to enjoy.  In an effort to get healthier we have been trying to substitute tea for less healthy drinks such as pop.  So I made a large batch of tea at the beginning of each week.  It’s super easy and it’s fun to experiment with flavors.

4) The weather, at least in Chicago, is going to be very summery! This means I can actually wear all those super cute dresses that have been just lurking in my closet.

5) I weighed myself on Saturday and I have lost two pounds.  While it’s not a lot, it’s something, so I need to keep at it!

6) In less than two weeks, two of my favorite people are going to town and we are going wedding dress shopping!! So excited!!

7) My favorite podcast The Adventure Zone is putting out another episode this week.

8) I have a friend moving out of town and while this is sad.  There is going to be a big sending off bash this week that will be awesome!! Looking forward to all the fun!

9) I hope to start a new regimen of writing for 30 minutes a day.  I really enjoy writing and want to make the opportunity to do it more often.

And finally this week is a great week because…

10) There are simply a million things to do, learn, and experience.  So get out there and start living!!